When you aren't where you thought you'd be

The last 3 years have been a roller coaster journey. I have lost 100 pounds (gained some back), finished my Masters Degree, received 3 promotions, including beginning my career as a School Guidance Counselor, and moved out of my parents house. Even with all of those positives I'm not where I want to be.

I thought I would have met the man of my dreams by now and had gotten married. Instead I am single with no relationship on the horizon. It's discouraging when everything else has fallen into place but the thing you've longed for your entire life has not. The thing you pray God would bless you with just doesn't seem like it's happening.

While everyone around me is beginning a new relationship, getting engaged, planning a wedding, getting married, thinking about starting a family, or having children, I'm sitting here wondering what's wrong with me. Have I done something to mess the prospect of having a relationship? Am I that undesirable?

The last few weeks I have been considering on-line dating. But as a Christ  follower, is that messing with his divine plan? I don't know how else I am going to meet someone. My church is small and there are only a few single men. Are my standards too high? Am I looking for something that doesn't exist? Are my priorities screwed up?

So many questions and so much discouragement.

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  1. UnknownJanuary 6, 2016 at 8:38 AM

    Gods timing is perfect... and there isnt anything wrong with you :)

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