Ever feel left out?

Since starting my journey in July 2012 my friend group has shrunk. Now there is not a direct correlation between losing friends and my weight loss journey. Some have moved, others have gotten married and fallen off the face of the earth (I'm a strong independent single woman if you haven't figured that out. Not that I'm opposed to getting married, I just haven't met the right person), people have changed churches, and my friends including myself have gotten new jobs that involve more responsibility. Anyways. Back in 2007/2008 I started to go to a new church. I really liked it A LOT. Then when my sister graduated she started attending in 2009ish. We've both stayed at the church, but right now I'm stuck because "my friends" don't hang out with me anymore... They hang out with my sister. I find things out through social media that I'm not invited to get coffee, yet almost EVERY Saturday these same people want to hang out at my apartment because 1. They live with their parents, 2. I have my own place with high speed internet, and 3. I clean up after them. I like hanging out with my friends, but the problem is I feel like they hang out with me because of convenience. If I were to move away who would talk to me? Would my friends still reach out to me, want to hang out when I was home from where I had moved? Would they try and visit me? Would they include me in anything? Right now I feel like the answer is "no" to all of these questions.

I'm on my way to be healthier, and I thought happier, but right now I don't feel that way. I feel discouraged. I make so many compromises when I hang out with my friends, primarily, my food choices. I've changed. I know I have, but accept and embrace it. Don't shun me and think that I won't find out. I have so few friends right now that I'm discouraged because I keep seeking friends, but they keep pushing me away. I've thought a lot lately about switching churches to find new friends, but I honestly don't know if that will help. I'm looking for attention by any means. I'm looking for authentic relationships. Maybe I'm not authentic enough, but I know if I move the only people that will be hurting are my parents.

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